Dear Allie

Ask Allie: Emotional Abuse in Sapphic Relationships

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer (she/they) Dear Allie, My friend is in trouble, but none of our other friends see it. I don’t know what to

Sarah Rutledge Fischer January 27, 2022

Dear Allie: My Child’s Same Sex Crush

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer, (she/they) Dear Allie, My 14-year-old daughter recently confided that she likes girls and has a crush on her best friend (we’ll

Sarah Rutledge Fischer November 15, 2021

Ask Allie: Protect Your Questioning Child

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer, (she/they) Dear Allie… After a long year of distancing, we are traveling to see my siblings, but I’m worried that our

Sarah Rutledge Fischer September 23, 2021

Ask Allie: Is Questioning Gender Real or Simply Trending?

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer (she/they) Dear Allie, I feel like everywhere I turn someone is questioning their gender, exploring they/them pronouns, or changing their name.

Sarah Rutledge Fischer April 5, 2021

Ask Allie: Finding Trans Youth Role Models

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie, Last November, watching Kamala Harris take the stage as the first someone-who-looks-like- me to be elected Vice President of

Sarah Rutledge Fischer January 3, 2021

Dear Allie: Can You Safely Live with a No-Masker?

I’ve had the same housemates for years. We’ve been through it all—illness, breakups, job changes—and we’ve always been able to work things out. But I’m afraid Miss ‘Rona might be our downfall.

Sarah Rutledge Fischer September 26, 2020

Ask Allie: Cohabitating During Covid

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie, I’ve had the same housemates for years. We’ve been through it all—illness, breakups, job changes—and we’ve always been able

Sarah Rutledge Fischer September 20, 2020

Ask Allie: We Must All DO. BE. ACT. BETTER

To fail to actively include BIPOC (Black and Indigenous People of Color) in the conversation about LGBTQ+ issues is to perpetuate a culture that discounts not only the trauma and injuries of BIPOC in this country, but also their voices, accomplishments, and basic humanity.

Sarah Rutledge Fischer July 26, 2020

Ask Allie: Quarantined With Homophobes

by Sarah Rutledge Fisher Dear Allie,I’m a 28-year-old lesbian, and up until a few weeks ago, I was a grad student living in university housing

Sarah Rutledge Fischer May 4, 2020

Dear Allie: When Your Family Member Needs Financial Help

Before you offer your brother financial assistance, take an honest look at your relationship. If you can, ask for perspective from someone who knows you both and won’t sugar coat things. A financial exchange between two people can change the balance of power in their relationship, and if power is already an issue, the results can be explosive.

Sarah Rutledge Fischer March 30, 2020

Ask Allie: Investing in Real, Lasting Self-Care

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie,I think being gay is sort of wearing me out. Every day there’s a new battle. I’m tired. I’m angry.

Sarah Rutledge Fischer January 13, 2020

Ask Allie: Treats for Your Trans Loved One

by Sarah Rutledge Fischer, with Jad Davis | photos from the brands’ websites Dear Allie,My niece, a transwoman in her early 20s, just moved nearby

Sarah Rutledge Fischer November 8, 2019