Dear Allie is the pen name for Focus LGBT’s advice columnist. Dear Allie has great ideas for solving all kinds of issues whether they be for LGBTQ persons or allies.
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie, I’ve had the same housemates for years. We’ve been through it all—illness, breakups, job changes—and we’ve always been able
To fail to actively include BIPOC (Black and Indigenous People of Color) in the conversation about LGBTQ+ issues is to perpetuate a culture that discounts not only the trauma and injuries of BIPOC in this country, but also their voices, accomplishments, and basic humanity.
by Sarah Rutledge Fisher Dear Allie,I’m a 28-year-old lesbian, and up until a few weeks ago, I was a grad student living in university housing
Before you offer your brother financial assistance, take an honest look at your relationship. If you can, ask for perspective from someone who knows you both and won’t sugar coat things. A financial exchange between two people can change the balance of power in their relationship, and if power is already an issue, the results can be explosive.
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie,I think being gay is sort of wearing me out. Every day there’s a new battle. I’m tired. I’m angry.
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer, with Jad Davis | photos from the brands’ websites Dear Allie,My niece, a transwoman in her early 20s, just moved nearby
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie,I’m a young queer kid in my early twenties. I know that things haven’t always beenso easy for boys like
I’m a 23-year-old transman married to a 30-year-old woman. I adore her, but I am such a disappointment to her. It has to do with my family.
My family lives across the country and doesn’t know that I am trans. They think I’m a lesbian. The thing is, they are fairly supportive about that, but they’ve made statements about transfolks . . . I just can’t tell them. Not yet…
Not answering questions truthfully may be a less stressful response for both LGBT+ adult children and their affected parents
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie,I’m a gay man in my 60s and recently moved home to help care for my aging mother. I knew
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie, I’m a sophomore in high school, and I’m gay. I’m out, and it’s not too bad. My friends are
by Sarah Rutledge Fischer Dear Allie, It’s resolution time, but I’m feeling frustrated. I’ve spent years getting my life under control. I eat well. I
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